INDIVIDUAL & RELATIONSHIPS

Do you keep repeating the same patterns in your relationship or keep picking the wrong people and feel frustrated because you can’t figure out how to makes things better?

Do you feel unheard and small in your relationship because your opinion or feelings are dominated by your partners?

Do you feel like you always pick the emotionally unavailable people?

Do you worry about your partners feelings more then your own? Do you struggle with setting healthy boundaries or have no boundaries at all? Do you feel like you are losing yourself?

Perhaps you are in a relationship and you are not sure if you should stay or leave. You love your partner but you also know that your relationship doesn’t feel healthy and maybe even toxic.

You are not alone. Sometimes talking with someone about these things can help us gain better insight about ourselves, our relationships, and what we want. Some things that we can explore are your unconscious limiting beliefs about yourself and relationships. Sometimes beliefs like “I’m not good enough to find the partner that I really want” or “I will never find anything better” keep us from getting the things that we really want.

As we explore what keeps you stuck, we can also discover who you want to be in relationships. You can learn how to express yourself clearly, develop the confidence to ask for what you need, and become more attuned to the needs of others. We can also work through the feelings that are causing you pain and/or holding you back.

With support, as well as a willingness to learn about yourself, it is possible to break down old patterns, heal from past hurts, let go of self limiting behaviors and find ways to connect with others in a meaningful way. The process of learning more about yourself – your patterns, fears, strengths and weaknesses is the first step toward having the healthy relationship that you deserve.

INDIVIDUAL THERAPY OR COUPLES THERAPY?

If you are having problems in your relationship, and feel like there are a lot of personal things that are contributing to the stressors of your relationship, then it could be a good option to address those individual issues before working on the relationship.

Individual therapy is also a good option if you have a partner that does not want to go to couples therapy.  When you learn more about yourself, and how to respond and show up differently in the relationship, you often will gain more clarity as to why the relationship feels stuck.